FAQs on why have a Christian wedding
By Dr. Ron
Senior Pastor, Community Church
1. What does it mean to get married in church?
a. Some couples love God and want the power and blessing of God in this part of life
as in every other part. If this is you, come on over! We hope you’ll be involved in the whole life of the church, because your new home needs the family of God. We can’t wait to get connected. Come this Sunday.
b. Some couples
are worried about staying together. They are afraid of divorce. Good thinking!
They hope that God or the solemn atmosphere of church will help. They don’t know God, but they don’t mind checking in for weddings, baptisms, Christmas and funerals.
We accept those feelings at Community Church. We’ll stay in
touch in the days ahead and you might get interested in the real spiritual power – about the time your kids come along! As God often says, “Loved the wedding, invite me to the marriage!”
c. Many couples marry in church to
please their families or make a good impression. We’re here for you even if you’re just adding a little class to your special day. If you really want the building, we’ll do a distinctively Christian ritual, but we won’t force a fake
spirituality on the whole thing. This is not my favorite wedding because I really believe God’s power is required for a marriage to work.
2. How can I prepare for a Christian wedding?
Why not work through a book like the ones that are on the wedding page? A marriage
workbook takes you through important subjects where you need to agree. One Amazon.com reader writes ….
“This book delves into important issues that engaged couples often overlook when planning their wedding. Reading it stimulated
some very enlightening discussions between my husband-to-be and me about things which had never come up when we were dating but which we would have to deal with during our marriage. I learned a lot about my fiancée and myself with the
help of this book. “
The things that wreck most marriages are not the big issues – they are the small issues about how to spend money,
how to use credit cards,
where to attend church
how much to give financially
how much time to spend apart,
whether both spouses should work on careers,
how many children to have and when,
how to split up chores and work together,
how to disagree without divorce.
You will
work on all these areas – either now or during a big fight. So why not make it easy on yourself and do it now with the help of a guide?
Another resource is pre-marital counseling. A marriage class with a therapist is available
on request.
3. Why do the weddings at Community Church have to be Christian?
I really believe that God is there for you as told to us from the
Bible. If you don’t want God at the wedding, why go to God’s house?
4. What’s the biggest mistake I can make in planning the wedding?
Money. Most weddings cost around $20,000. If your parents have the
cash or if you have money to burn – knock yourself out! But it doesn’t make a better wedding to spend a million dollars on it. The vows will be as serious for 1 thousand as for 10. Focus on a great marriage and that’ll be enough for a
great wedding.
5. Who is the pastor?
Dr. Ron Tompkins is an ordained elder of the United Methodist Church. He has
been in full time Christian ministry for 25 years and has presided at over 100 weddings. He has several children with his youngest in high school
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